Bringing joy to God and all creation
Though a man and a woman may be in love, the question is whether their love is in accord with God’s Will and the standard He requires of human beings. Is their love in accord with the model of love in the mind of God?
If the first man and woman had become as one in true love with God at the center, this love would have become the model for true love throughout the universe. God must have desired such love from human beings.
Likewise, the man and woman must have wanted this kind of love from each other.
Such true love would have become the core of the universe. It would be the standard against which all other loves would be compared.
God’s love and human love are essentially the same. Love is a force that strives to bring two together as one. Why do a man and a woman long for each other?
It is because God’s essence can be experienced by a man only through a woman, and by a woman only through a man. This is because God dwells in the place where a man and a woman become as one in love.
Knowing that God is the source of dual characteristics, we need to give even greater praise to the noble value of God whenever we praise the dignity and value of men and women.
When a woman loved by God is in a man’s heart, and that man loved by God is in the heart of that woman, and the two form a couple and praise God together, God will rejoice to see this, and all the creation will rejoice as well.
The loving embrace between these two people will make heaven and earth rejoice.
When such a husband and wife embrace each other in mutual love, the power of their love pulls the entire universe into oneness. This is the original vision of God’s creation when manifested according to His ideal.
Originally, a man was to meet a woman with whom he could rejoice, and a woman was to meet a man with whom she could rejoice. When these two met and pledged to love one another, their encounter would bring joy to God and all things of creation.
Sun Myung Moon
When this happened, all the creation would be mobilized for this couple and would welcome their dominion. Birds would sing for them, and butterflies would flutter and dance with joy.
God would rejoice, people would rejoice, and all the creation would rejoice. Had our first ancestors started history by securing such a position, the world would be the ideal world of God’s original vision.
Why are men and women born?
What is the original purpose of a man’s birth? We cannot deny that he was born for the sake of a woman. Likewise, a woman is not born for her own sake.
We need to know that a problem will arise if a woman cannot come to a clear realization within herself that she is born for the sake of a man.
God, the great administrator of heaven and earth, established this principle as a principle of creation, and we cannot enter the world of goodness, truth, happiness, and peace, the ideal world of true love, unless we follow this principle.
A woman is born to meet a man, and a man is born to meet a woman. Isn’t that right? This is the highest truth. Therefore, we seek the realm of blessing by following this principle. Deviating from this highest realm of truth constitutes the highest evil.
Men and women are physically opposite. Whereas women are one-directional, men are three-directional or four-directional. Women are more likely to enjoy staying at home, and men are more likely to enjoy traveling the world.
The characters of men and women are opposite. Then what can be at the center to bring the subject-partner man and object-partner woman into oneness? They become one when love is at the center. Love also brings people and God into oneness.
Why is a man born? He is not born for the sake of academic pursuits, money, or political power. He is born for the sake of a woman. A man is born for the sake of a woman.
A man has a larger physique, not so he can earn a living only for himself, but so he can earn a living for his wife and children. Men’s reproductive organs and women’s reproductive organs are different. For whom do they exist?
They did not come into existence for their own sake. A man’s reproductive organ came into existence for the sake of a woman.
Sun Myung Moon
Likewise, a woman’s reproductive organs an is being for the sake of a man. Have you ever thought this way? This is not something to laugh about and then forget.
What is the symbol of the love between a man and a woman?
Where is the ultimate destination of love?
It is the reproductive organ that makes a man and a woman one body. The reproductive organs become a channel through which the mind and body can merge completely, with love at the center.
That which a man has is not his, and that which a woman has is not hers. A husband has what belongs to his wife, and a wife has what is hers husband. Men and women are not born for their own sake. They have to know clearly that they are born for the sake of their partner.
Why are men and women born on Earth?
They are born to love each other. Since God is the great king of wisdom, He switched the ownership of their love organs. A man has a reproductive organ, but that does not mean he is its owner.
The same is true for a woman. Those who have acted carelessly, with no regard for their reproductive organs’ ownership, will be judged for having violated love.
If a man knew that he would be punished under the most fearful law, would he dare to think of another woman instead of his wife? Conversely, would a woman dare to think of a man besides her husband?
Men and women need each other
Love is something that you need, isn’t it?
Human beings, a man and a woman, are a necessary element for love. A man needs a woman, and a woman needs a man. How much do they need each other?
They need each other more than they need Korea, more than they need the world, and even more than they need God. If there were no women, humanity would perish in less than a hundred years.
No matter how many men boast of uniting the world, all would be gone within one hundred years if there were no women. So women are necessary. When we say “human beings,” we refer to men and women.
When we consider a particular man, we see that he has to be with a woman, and when we consider a woman, she has to be with a man. Man is not born through his desire, nor is woman, who is needed by the man, born through her desire. After we are born, we discover that we are either a man or a woman.
When you were born as a man, were you aware that there are women in the world? If a man were born and found out that there were only men, would he not feel bad?
And if a woman were born and found out that there were only women, she would feel bad, wouldn’t she? So, when a woman is born, is she born with or without the knowledge that there are men?
Although I was born without this knowledge, the one who gave birth to me knew it. The reason a person is born as a woman is that there is a man who needs her.
Likewise, the reason I am born as a man like this is that there is a woman who needs me. We are all born like this, with God’s knowledge.
A man needs a woman. Man absolutely needs God. However, before he needs God, he needs a partner called a woman. Human history has been miserable because men have been unable to understand correctly their absolute need for women. Conversely, women have not understood that they need men.
Sun Myung Moon
Tasting true love requires a realm of the ideal, and for this a man needs a woman and a woman needs a man. You must know that an absolute man and an absolute woman pursuing true love are joined through their efforts of becoming one in heart. When such a man and woman are joined as one, God dwells in their midst.
God does not like to see a couple separating who have been joined by true love, so the love of an absolute man and woman is eternal.
God is omniscient and omnipotent, yet even the Absolute Being has no meaning when He is alone. Similarly, no matter how handsome and healthy a man may be, these things have no meaning if he is without a woman.
A man living in fascination with his good looks and health leads an ugly existence and has no value. The problem is that many men in the world have sunk into such narcissism, and this is one reason why history has moved toward tragedy.
It is important to understand that God’s providence has been working to change and improve this world, which is immersed in such self-centeredness.
Love comes from your partner
By himself or herself, a person cannot realize love. From where does love come? Love does not originate from me; it comes from my spouse. Since love comes from my spouse, I must bow my head and serve her.
This is where the heavenly principle of living for the sake of others originates. We must practice the philosophy that teaches that when something highly noble comes to me, I must honor and serve it to receive it.
Human beings have love. However, when we are alone, love cannot manifest itself.
We say that parental love is good and conjugal love is good because genuine love is not something self-centered. Love does not start with me; it starts with my partner. It is important to know this.
Love comes from your husband or wife, from your sons and daughters, and from your brothers and sisters. Love does not start with you. It starts with your spouse. Therefore, who owns love? Your spouse is the owner of love.
From where did we say love comes?
It comes from your partner. If your partner is homely or ugly, love recedes; if your partner is pretty and lovely, love advances more quickly.
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The way love functions is determined according to your partner’s attributes: her speech, her beauty, her scent, and her taste. Where is the basis of love? I am not the basis of love. The word “love” must be used in reciprocal terms. No matter how handsome a man may be, he cannot love if he has no partner to love.
The basis of love is not one’s. “Love comes from me” are the words that Satan has been exploiting. I am not the basis of love. You may think that you are the basis of love, yet there will be no future unless you change such a mindset and correct it.
Until now, wives have put themselves at the center, and husbands have put themselves at the center, both wanting to be served. That is why their relationships often come to ruin.
Again, conjugal love does not originate from you, but from your spouse. Therefore, if you want to possess your spouse’s love, you need to sacrifice yourself for the sake of love. Love always demands sacrifice.
Furthermore, love requires that we overcome. This is the only place in all heaven and earth where we can find the power to overcome Satan’s world.
God is holding tightly onto love; true love can be found only by the principle that places God at the center. Religious virtues, including compassion and benevolence, are also rooted in love. These words do not pertain to individuals alone; they are used only in the context of a mutual relationship.
Men and women harmonize in love
Man symbolizes heaven, and woman symbolizes earth. Therefore, the two must unite in harmony. Men and women are different. Men’s muscles are rugged and women’s are smooth. Men have beards while women do not.
Their voices are also different. These contrasting features of men and women allow them to fit together well. Harmony is created between them. When we look at the physical structure of human beings, their left and right sides are complementary and form a correlative pair. These two halves are bound tightly together.
Ladies and gentlemen, do you like things that are only high or only low?
You like things that create harmony. Judging from the fine formed by the horizon, fish live below this line, and mammals, birds, and other creatures live above it.
Women menstruate once a month, like tidal variations based on the moon.
Breathing involves inhaling and exhaling. A man and a woman need to establish a line of balance and create harmony.
The reason people like to go to Disneyland, with its rides that go up and down, is that this is similar to the nature of the universe.
Which do you think will be more pleasing, men socializing only with other men, or men and women socializing together?
Men and women together are better because this reflects the harmony of the universe. We need to live in step with the beat of the universe, which promotes harmony through the balance of yin and yang.
When a husband and wife create a harmony of love, they initiate circular movement. When they become one body in love and bear the fruits of love, God comes down, and they go to you, and they meet in the middle.
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God becomes the center of this sphere, and spherical movement begins. From this central point, connections can be established in any direction. The center of the sphere is the place where the harmony of love is realized.
It is the place where life emerges and moves, and it is the starting point of human equality and shared philosophy. This is so because the power of love is there. Thus, the force that embraces all interactions of the universe is love.
They are two bodies, but by revolving in oneness with each other, they become as one body. When husband and wife become one, they revolve with God to form a four-position foundation of love.
This is the ideal world of love. Only true love dwells there; false love cannot invade. When a man and a woman are blessed in marriage by God and achieve perfect oneness, God can come to them at any time.
When they form a four-position foundation of love, they will come to love each other’s heart through each other’s body, and when they come to love the heart, their body will follow.
Enraptured by true love
What is the most sacred thing in the world? It is true love. True love begins with God. If God exists, there can be no other path.
God truly desires the path of true love, so without traversing the path of true love we cannot go before God. It is important to understand this point.
God wants to see, hear, eat, and touch through love. As for human beings, if we were to receive God’s kiss of love, our joy would be so great that we would feel as though we might explode from the inside.
This is where God’s desire lies. Having diamonds or jewelry would not give Him joy. The human body has five senses, and every human being feels and confirms true love through the sensations of the five senses. If the eyes are directed toward true love, they will be colored by true love and intoxicated by it.
How beautifully those colorful, intoxicated eyes will shine! Think about how enchanting would be the smiling lips of a person immersed in true love. Try to imagine the intense beauty of the five senses, intoxicated with true love, moving in harmony toward God.
Alone, God cannot experience the joy of such beauty. He can only experience such beauty when He has a partner; this is the reason He created human beings.
How would God feel as He observed a beautiful man and woman absorbed in one another through eyes intoxicated with true love, or kissing with lips intoxicated with true love, and playing the melody of a heart of true love?
Sun Myung Moon
If there were an Eve of true love, God would want to traverse her world of heart completely.
God would feel an impulse to find out for Himself just how far and how deep the world of the heart of this beautiful Eve extended. God would want to traverse both Adam’s and Eve’s world of the heart, a world more beautiful than the heaven and earth that He created.
God would certainly want to travel the world of the heart of a person of true love, even more than he would want to travel the universe. God would feel that He would never want to leave Adam and Eve’s world of heart and true love. If God, after creating human beings, fell into their true love and became lost in that love, what kind of world would we have?
God would dwell amid human beings, and the world formed by God and human beings in oneness certainly would be a world filled with joy and beauty.
If true love had been perfected, in responding, God would be absorbed by true love and have no regrets. God’s nature is such that He would be completely happy with anything that happened within the realm of true love.
If human beings were to live in this world of true love, they would live their entire lives happy and free from regret. Moreover, this would be a world without a history of warfare and free of complaint and misfortune.
Love happens in completely natural settings
This is a story from my childhood. One day, I caught a pair of birds and tried to make them kiss each other’s beaks. To see them kiss, I put them in a cage, fed them, and watched them.
I did it out of a child’s desire to see them love each other and sing happily together. This was an experiment, out of curiosity, to understand the principles of nature. I continued this experiment, which I now understand to have been quite naughty.
It was only much later that I began to realize that love happens in natural settings. Sincere love is realized naturally, in a most natural setting. It was only as a result of a long series of experiments that I came to a correct understanding about love.
When someone has lost the value of love, what good would it do for this person to receive a university education?
Such a person will only accumulate knowledge, become individualistic, and come to worship materialism. Just as Korean bean paste soup tastes right only when it is served in an earthenware bowl, so character training can reach its purpose only when it is based on love.
The flower of world civilization blossoms based on artistic harmony. In this sense, roasted ribs need to be served on a platter, and Korean bean paste soup ought to be served in an earthenware bowl to bring out the proper taste of each dish. Once you grow accustomed to the rough, deep, and refreshing taste of Korean bean paste soup, you will never forget it, regardless of where you may go.
Likewise, once people have become used to the earthy, deep, relaxing taste of love, they will not change. Just as we easily tire of instant foods that are usually heavily sweetened, if we could obtain love easily and anywhere, like we can instant food, we could not call it true love.
Sun Myung Moon
There are people everywhere today whose love is like instant food. This is a problem. Love does not deepen because you bathe in a fragrant bath. I would say that the love of a husband and wife living in the remotest countryside, who wash themselves in cold water before going to bed, is purer, longer-lasting, and ever deepening.
A couple who have to clean their teeth before kissing are not experiencing natural love. The toothpaste smell will prevent them from tasting the unique smell of the other.
When I look at people who clean their teeth before kissing, I don’t know whether they are trying to taste love or taste toothpaste. When you meet someone you like and love, you want to embrace and kiss that person.
This is natural between the sexes. We have a relationship with our environment so that we can feel affection toward the universe. It is natural for us to do this as a part of our search for a partner.
When all people relate to each other within this ideal of partnership, with each man relating to one woman and each woman relating to one man, there will be no acts or incidents that violate the order of love.
The order of true love emerges only when man and woman meet based on the ideal of partnership.