1. God placed Adam and Eve in the center of the created universe and gave them a purpose to fulfill. During the time of adolescence, when a person explores the things of creation, he feels their mystery.
God hoped that the emotions of His love would become part of Adam and Eve and that the emotions He felt as He created the entire universe would also be shared by them. When your passion reaches its climax, you can write a wonderful poem. In the same way, God created human beings to attain perfection and possess the same great universal heart.
God waited impatiently until the time was right for them to mature according to His goal. As Adam and Eve matured, God longed for them to relate to each other as substantial manifestations of the entire universe.
When a man relates to a woman and a woman to a man, God wants them to see each other in that way. He wants people to mature to the level that allows not only God but also all the things of the creation, to enter the world of human emotions. (9-171, 1960.05.08)
The changes during our youth
2. The time of our youth is when we feel as though we are the princes and princesses of the world. It is a time when we think of everything with ourselves as the center. At the same time, the time of adolescence is a time of rebellion, so if others do not recognize us, it is effortless to go a different path.
That is why the problems of today's adolescents are global. In the time of our youth, we dislike anything that doesn't revolve around us. However, when something is connected to us, no matter how insignificant it may be, we become elated.
If you stop and watch young women in their late teens and early twenties, you will see that they sometimes laugh for no apparent reason. A young woman may laugh when she sees a ripe persimmon suddenly fall from a persimmon tree that has lost all its leaves. This is because these young women can somehow connect to what is going on around them and thus experience the deepest emotions.
Our youth is the transition time when we can encounter and make a connection with all things. This is because God gave us an original nature, which allows a man and a woman to be completely united through His love. (33-333, 1970.08.23)
3. When young men and women meet as young adults, their hearts leap. When these feelings arise, their hearts go through a change. However, if their minds are not fixed on God, and they stand on the opposite side, they fall into evil.
Our minds must be fixed on God. Love is what allows our mind and heart, when focused on God, to rise to the position of oneness with God's heart. Since people have to go through their lives in that position, they truly must have dreams and hopes, with love as their center. (26-159, 1969.10.25)
4. In terms of perfecting a man and a woman, the power of love builds a relationship between a subject partner and an object partner. The power of love emerges after adolescence, at the time when men and women attain perfection.
The power of love is greater than both man and woman, so it can unite them. A man and a woman inevitably become husband and wife. On the path of love, one can even discard one's own life. Love is stronger than life. As men and women grow into young adulthood, this powerful force makes them long for a partner.
(61-332, 1972.09.03)
5. The place of greatest happiness for people is the place in which human morality and compassion conform in oneness to heavenly morality and heavenly compassion. God created human beings as His object partners.
The time that God as the subject partner recognizes the perfect value of people as His object partners is when they become mature. It is the time when we can give and receive based on God's love. I am saying that when an object partner comes to recognize his or her subject partner, that person has reached maturity. This is when a man or woman becomes a young adult. (65-025, 1972.11.13)
6. When women think about a man during their youth, they want to think of that man as someone who represents the world. During our youth, we would like to pull the entire world to us and drive it into our hearts, and we would like to walk with the great ocean in our embrace.
This is why the time of youth is a wonderful one. It is incredible because, from a horizontal perspective, it is when the subject and object partners meet and thus become closer; and from a vertical perspective, it is when God and human beings become closer.
When a mature man and woman are bound together through genuine love, everything that was invested by God at the time of the Creation ripens and returns to God for the first time. At such times, everyone becomes a poet and lyrical writer. (65-026, 1972.11.13)
7. No matter how pretty a young lady may be, she will have her youth only once. It is like the blooming of the most beautiful flower, a most precious time in her life. Is there any woman who, when reaching young adulthood, would rather live alone? Such a person is not a woman.
Is there any man who, possessing a fine figure and being in the middle of his energetic days of youth, wants to live by himself? At such a time, men, or women always seek their partner. Who do they resemble by doing that? They resemble God.
How could such a person seek partnership if God were not like that Himself? God is like that. It is the same for both men and women, in that they seek their eternal partner during their energetic youth. That's the most precious time of my life. (32-248, 1970.07.19)
8. Can you love freely or not? Just because a man calls to you on the street does not mean you should follow him. You must protect your body well until the proper time. I am saying that you must not entrust your pure heart to troll-like men. Men who strut around the streets frivolously are all little devils. Would you place your destiny in the hands of such a man? This is not an issue to take lightly.
Finding your spouse is something that occurs only once in your lifetime. On the day you make one misstep, you put your entire life at risk. It's the same for men. Until now, women were told to protect their chastity, but men must also protect their chastity. No matter how evil or heartless the world may be, you must not commit an act that deviates from the proper way. (26-161, 1969.10.25)
9. Your youth is a precious time in your life when you can take the grief of Adam and Eve, who lost their purity in their adolescence and indemnify it. So you should protect and preserve your purity during your youth.
You need to have the resolve that you will preserve your purity as something clean and precious. You should say, “Even if I may have to live alone for all time, I will never allow my love to be violated.” Unless we love our people and our nation, we cannot meet the person whom we can love. Unless we love the world, we cannot have a person to love.
This thought is the tradition of the Unification Church. Therefore, you can love your wife and love your husband after you have loved God, loved the world, and loved your people. This is a matter of principle. (37-108, 1970.12.22)
10. It is said that human beings are the most precious of all created things and that they go through a spring and an autumn in their life. From this viewpoint, it can be said that young men and women who are in the growing period lasting until their marriage are in their spring.
In spring, the cold weather gradually warms, and a green garden forms in which flowers bloom and spread their fragrance. Thus, all things are prepared to welcome the abundant summer.
After passing through such a summer, we welcome autumn and the time for harvest. For people, the time of spring is adolescence, when we are at the height of our growth. (221-266, 1991.10.26)
The love between a man and a woman in the original creation
11. You need to understand that the reason for your birth as a woman or a man is to join your partner in virtue through true love. When we examine this, women and men are each composed of yin and yang.
From the viewpoint of the Divine Principle, yin and yang are called characteristics of seongsang or internal nature and hyeongsang or external form. When we look at individual beings, we can see that each of us has yin and yang aspects.
Yin and yang correspond to the attributes that enable us to receive internal nature and external form. God divided yin and yang because of love.
(216-189, 1991.03.31)
12. What do the subject and object partners — in other words, yang nature and yin nature — have as their central focus when they unite? Love is not just a concept. It is a reality. What is the reality through which love can be established?
We did not know what it was that made a man and a woman. Quite simply, it is the reproductive organs. The world is perishing, however, because all men believe their reproductive organs are theirs, and all women believe the same about theirs.
Both men and women have a misconception about who owns their reproductive organs. Everyone says that love is absolute and eternal and thinks of it in an idealized fashion, but if people only knew clearly that the ownership of eternal love has been vested in one's loving counterpart, then the world would not be as it is today. (279-245, 1996.09.15)
13. If you like to realize love, you must invest and forget, invest and forget. Why must we possess such love? It is because love grows larger and larger — not smaller — the more it moves. Natural phenomena in the world of physical dynamics are such that the more things move and the more they act, the more they are diminished.
But in the world of true love, the more things move, the more they grow. Because God knew that, He was able to initiate the process of Creation with true love as His central focus. When a person matures and begins to interact in a certain way for the first time, it is love that is behind this.
Once they are fully grown, young men and women seek to interact focusing on love. Their eyes, which had been only for themselves, change, and they now look outward. Even self-centered and prim young women glance to their sides when they reach their adolescence.
Their eyes, which had previously been only for their mother and father, start to stray elsewhere. This is not a bad thing. Rather, it is natural. It permits them to grasp the larger world of their future spouse, to maintain their life course. (237-127, 1992.11.13)
14. How do you want to live? The answer is simple. Is there something in this world you would wish to gaze upon until your eyes popped out, smell until you lost your sense of smell, listen to until your ears burst, and touch until your hands no longer had a feeling?
This thing is not money, knowledge, or power. It is love. The more you hold love in your hands, the more you want to hold on to it. And when you let go, you liberate everything fully at once. The thing that makes all things possible is love. Your eyes must meet at the correct focal point and your nose must also have the right focus. You can only hear well when your ears find the appropriate focus.
The balance or focal point between the ear's three semicircular canals must be just right so that you do not feel dizzy. Human beings all live with focal points. What is the integrated focal point for a person?
There is the focal point of the eyes, the ears, the nose, the mouth, and the sense of touch. But what is the root of all these focal points? Love is the root of the creation and the movement of all the focal points. Nothing apart from love.
(195-032, 1989.11.01)
15. Only your partner can stand eternally in the position of the owner of your love. A woman is the one who perfects a man. Only a woman makes a man an owner of love, and only a man makes a woman an owner of love.
Any other kind of owner is false. There is only one key — one partner — to unlock a person's love, not two. (453-259, 2004.06.13)
16. God's Will is the fulfillment of His purpose of creation. Individuals can reach that point within the realm of God's love. However, fallen people — no matter how hard they try — have no way to pass through and succeed in any matter. But God, by adhering to absolute conditions, has established a path to love that allows everyone to be recognized as scoring one hundred percent.
Therefore, people have formed the religious realm to receive the privilege of that love, and a way of maintaining faith has unfolded through that realm. A man and woman who are united in mind and body, and who have the basis in their relationship that allows God's love to be with them, are to receive the Blessing and marry.
In doing so, they will explode for the first time with the power of an earthquake. Love is established while heaven and earth vibrate.
(101-047, 1978.10.28)
17. Establishing a family in which God's love and the three great kinds of human love can blossom together is the desire of the world, of humanity, and of the future.
The love of husband and wife is a precious and beautiful thing that can finally spread the fragrances of history by the principles of heaven and earth and appear as a new flower. (35-243, 1970.10.19)
18. The ideal married couple we speak of in the Unification Church is a couple who can realistically manifest the highest art and the highest literature. Before we encounter the highest ideal and the highest world of culture, the highest, sweetest love shared by a husband and wife must become the most sublime work of art in the world. The life of a husband and wife should inspire the most sublime work of literature. It should be the subject of a great literary work. (22-270, 1969.05.04)
19. The place where a husband and wife share true love after marrying is the palace that is the origin of the love, life, and lineage of God and humankind. It is the starting point of the kingdom of heaven on earth and in the spirit world that actualizes the ideal.
With true love as their center, the children born of this love become the perfect union of husband and wife, form a family attending God, and become the origin of peace and the ideal.
The man and woman, who by themselves represent only halves, unite into one and complete the ideal love of God as His object partners. (259-046, 1994.03.27)
Sun Myung Moon