The Original Love of a Man and a Woman
When man and woman are in love, whether their love is in accord with God's will and the standard He requires of them is the question. Is their love in accord with the model of love in God's mind?
We conclude that if the first man and woman had become one in love based on the love of God, then their love would have become the universal model of love. God must have desired such love from human beings.
Likewise, men and women must have wanted this love from each other. Such true love must be the core of the universe. It becomes the standard of measurement. (Blessed Family — 334)
God's love and human love are the same. Love causes oneness.
Why do a man and a woman long for each other?
It is because a man can possess God only through a woman, and a woman can possess God only through a man. In other words, they long for each other because God comes and dwells where a man and a woman have become one in love. (Blessed Family — 334)
Considering that the source of the dual characteristics is God, we should simultaneously sing praises for the noble value of God and the dignity and value of men and women. (Blessed Family — 334)
When God's beloved woman lives in a man's heart and God's beloved man lives in a woman's heart as well, these two become his object partners, and when they love each other, God will be delighted to see this love, and all things will rejoice.
Heaven and earth will rejoice to see a man and woman with these values embrace.
When a man and a woman embrace each other in mutual fondness, this mutual fondness becomes the point where the universe unifies. This is how the original image unfolds in God's ideal. (Blessed Family — 334)
Originally, a man should meet a woman with whom he can rejoice, and a woman also should meet a man with whom she can rejoice. More than this, it should be an encounter over which both God and all things of creation can rejoice.
Then, all creation will be mobilized for this couple and will want to be ruled by them. Birds will sing and butterflies will flutter and dance with joy. God will rejoice, people will rejoice, everything will rejoice.
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Had the first human ancestors started history by establishing such a position, the world would be the original, ideal world. (Blessed Family — 334)
The Reason Men and Women Are Born
What is the original purpose of a man's birth?
We cannot deny the fact that he was born for the sake of a woman.
Likewise, a woman is not born for her own sake. We should know that a problem will arise if a woman fails to comprehend on her own that she is born for the sake of a man.
Because God, the great owner of heaven and earth, established this as a principle of creation, we cannot enter the world of goodness, truth, happiness, and peace or the world of love and ideals unless we follow this principle. (Blessed Family — 337)
A woman is born to meet a man, and a man is born to meet a woman, are they not? This is the highest truth. Therefore, we should find the realm of blessing that conforms to this principle. Deviating from this highest realm of truth constitutes the highest evil. (21-201, 1968.11.20)
Men and women are physically opposite. Whereas women are one-directional, men are three-directional or four-directional. Women are more likely to enjoy staying at home, and men are more likely to enjoy traveling the world.
The characters of men and women are opposite. How can men and women become one? They become one through love. Love unites human beings and God.
(38-255, 1971.1.8)
Why is man born?
He is not born for the sake of academic pursuits, money, or political power. He is born for the sake of a woman. Man is born for the sake of woman.
Men have larger physiques, not so that they can earn a living only for themselves, but so that they can earn a living for their children and wives. Men's sexual organs and women's sexual organs are different.
For whom do they exist?
They did not come into existence for their own sake. Man's sexual organ came into existence for the sake of woman. Likewise, a woman's sexual organ is for the sake of a man.
Have you ever thought like this?
This is not something to laugh about. What is the symbol of the love between a man and a woman? Where is the final destination of love? It is the sexual organ that makes them one body. (143-275, 1986.3.20)
The sexual organ becomes a channel through which the mind and body can completely merge through love. That which man has is not his, and that which woman has is not hers.
Man has what belongs to woman, and woman has what belongs to man. Men and women are not born for their own sake. They should know clearly that they are born for the sake of their partner.
Why are men and women born on Earth?
They Earth born to others. Since God is the great king of wisdom, He switched ownership of their love organs. (132-146, 1984.5.31)
A man has a sexual organ, but that does not mean that he is its owner. The same is true for women. Those who have acted carelessly with no regard for their sexual organs' ownership will be judged.
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If men know that they will receive punishment under the most fearful law, would they dare think of other women instead of their wives? Conversely, can wives think of other men instead of their husbands? (Blessed Family -340)
Men and Women Need Each Other
Love is something you need, isn't it? Is that right? Human beings, a man and a woman, are a necessary element for love. A man needs a woman, and a woman needs a man.
How much do they need each other?
They need each other more than Korea, more than the world, and even more than God. Furthermore, if there were no women, the entire human race would perish within a hundred years. No matter how much man boasts of unifying the world, all would be gone within one hundred years if there were no women. Therefore, women are necessary. (25-180, 1969.10.4)
When we say “human beings,” we mean men and women. When we look at a man, he has to be with a woman, and when we look at a woman, she has to be with a man.
Man is not born through his desire, nor is woman born through her desire. Both need each other. After their birth, they discover they are either a man or a woman. (67-267, 1973.7.22)
When you were born as a man, were you born with or without the knowledge that there are women? If a man were born and found out that there are only men, would he not feel bad?
And if a woman were born and found out that there are only women, she would feel bad, wouldn't she?
So, when a woman is born, is she born with or without the knowledge that there are men?
Although I was born without knowing it, the one who gave birth to me knew it. The reason one is born as a woman is that there is a man who needs her. Likewise, the reason I was born as a man like this is that there is a woman who needs me. Isn't that right? We are all born like this, with God's knowledge. (37-19, 1970.12.22)
A man needs a woman. Man absolutely needs God, but before this, he needs a partner called a woman. Human history has been miserable because men have failed to understand the absolute need for women.
Conversely, women have not understood that they need men. Tasting true love requires a realm of ideal, and for this man, it needs a woman, and a woman needs a man. You should know that an absolute man and an absolute woman pursuing true love are joined through their efforts to become one in heart.
When such a man and woman are joined as one, God comes and dwells with them. (Blessed Family — 340)
God does not like to see a couple joined by true love separate; therefore, the love of an absolute man and woman is eternal. Although God is omniscient and omnipotent, God's existence has no meaning when He is alone. Similarly, no matter how handsome and healthy a man may be, these things have no meaning if he is without a woman.
A man living in fascination with his good looks and health leads an ugly existence and has no value before God. The problem is that many men in the world have sunk into such narcissism, and this constitutes a reason why history has moved toward tragedy.
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You have to know that God's providence works to change and improve the world immersed in such self-centeredness. (Blessed Family -340)
Love Comes from One's Partner
Love cannot be realized by oneself. Where does love come from? Love does not come from me but from my spouse. Since love comes from my spouse, I must bow my head and serve her.
This is where the heavenly principle of living for the sake of others originates. When something highly noble comes to me, I must honor and serve it to receive it. We must live the philosophy of living for the sake of others. (143-277, 1986.3.30)
When we are alone, love cannot manifest itself. Love does not appear when a man is alone, but only when a woman appears as his object of love. Only when the object of love appears does love finally spring forth. (Blessed Family — 342)
We say that parental love is good and conjugal love is good because genuine love is not self-centered. Love is not something that starts from me, but something that starts from my partner. You need to know this.
Love comes from your husband and your wife, and your sons and daughters, and your brothers and sisters. Love does not start from yourself but from your spouse. Therefore, who owns love? Your spouse is the owner of love. (34-331, 1970.9.20)
Where does love come from?
It comes from your partner. If your partner is homely or ugly, love recedes; if your partner is nice-looking or lovely, love advances more quickly. How love functions is determined according to your partner's attributes: her speech, her scent, her smell, and her taste. (Blessed Family — 342)
Where is the base of love?
The base of love is not me. The word love must be used in reciprocal terms. No matter how handsome a man may be, if he has no partner, he is stuck because he cannot love alone.
The base of love is not me. “Love comes from me” are words that Satan has been using. I am not the basis of love.
You may think that you are the base of love, but there will be no progress in the future unless such a mindset is dismantled and transformed.
Until now, wives have put themselves at the center, and husbands have put themselves at the center, with both wanting to be served. This has been destroying relationships.
Since the basis of love does not come from me, but from my spouse, if I am to possess that love, I must sacrifice myself for that love. Love requires patience and demands sacrifice. With this viewpoint, there is no place in the cosmos, other than on Earth, where we can defeat Satan.
God is holding tightly onto love because it can be found only by the God-centered principle of love. The word compassion (jabi) cannot be expressed in the absence of love.
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The word benevolence (in) also cannot stand on its own. The words jabi and in are used only in reciprocal terms. (46-35, 1971.7.18)
Men and Women Harmonize in Love
Man symbolizes heaven, and woman, earth. The two must unite and realize harmony. Men and women are different. Men's muscles are rugged and women's are smooth. Men have beards while women do not.
Their voices are also different. If we compare men and women, we see their contrasting features fit together well. Harmony unfolds between them. When we look at the physical structure of human beings, their left and right sides form a correlative pair. These two halves are bound tightly together.
Ladies and gentlemen, do you like only high things or only low things?
You like things that create harmony. Judging from the line formed by the horizon, fish live below, and mammals, birds, and other creatures live above. Women menstruate once a month, like tidal variations based on the moon. Breathing is similar.
A man and a woman establish a line of balance and create harmony. People like Disneyland, with its rides that go up and down, because Disneyland duplicates the motions of the universe.
Which do you think will be more pleasing, a man harmonizing with another man or a man harmonizing with a woman? A man harmonizing with a woman is better because that reflects the harmony of the universe.
We should live in step with the beat of the universe, the universe that promotes harmony through the harmony of yin and yang. (Blessed Family — 344)
When a man and a woman create harmony, they initiate circular movement. When man and woman become one body through love and bear the fruits of love, God comes down, and they go up, and they meet in the middle.
God becomes the center of this sphere, and spherical movement begins. The center of the sphere is the place where the harmony of love is realized. It is the place where life emerges and moves, and it is the starting point of human equality and communal philosophy.
This is so because the power of love is there. Thus, the force that embraces all interactions of the universe is love. (Blessed Family — 344)
For human beings, love is eternal. It is one and never divided. Once a man and a woman are joined in love, they are to live together for a lifetime and then eternally even after death. They are two bodies that become one body by uniting and revolving together.
When the two bodies become one, they revolve as God does and form a four-position foundation of love, the expression of the ideal world of love. Only true love dwells there, and false love cannot invade.
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When a man and a woman become blessed by God and achieve perfection, God comes to them freely. When they form a four-position foundation of love, they will come to love each other's mind through each other's body, and when they come to love the mind, their body will follow. (Blessed Family — 344)
Original Human Beings Are Enraptured with True Love
What is the holiest thing in the world?
True love is the holiest thing in the world. True love originates with God. If God exists, there is no other way than the way of true love.
God truly desires the way of true love, and without traversing the way of true love, we cannot go before God. We have to know this point.
God wants to see, hear, eat, and touch through love. As for human beings, if they receive a kiss of love from God, their joy will make them feel as if they are going to explode from inside.
This is where God's desire lies. God does not rejoice because He has diamonds or jewelry. (Blessed Family — 380)
The human body has five senses, and every human being feels and confirms true love through the sensations of the five senses. If the eyes are directed toward true love, they will be colored by and intoxicated with true love.
How beautifully those colorful, intoxicated eyes will shine! Think about how enchanting the smiling lips of a person immersed in true love are. Try to imagine the intense beauty of the five senses moving in intoxication with true love, and the harmony of the five senses moving toward God.
Alone, God cannot experience the joy of such beauty. He can experience such beauty only when He has a partner, and this is the reason God created human beings.
How would God feel as He observed a beautiful man and woman absorbed into one another through true love-intoxicated eyes, or kissing with true love-intoxicated lips, and playing the melody of a heart of true love?
If there is an Eve of true love, God would want to completely traverse her world of heart. God would have an impulsive desire to explore the breadth and depth of this beautiful Eve's world of heart.
God would want to traverse both Adam's and Eve's world of the heart, a world more beautiful than the created heaven and earth.
Certainly, God would rather travel within the world of the heart of a person of true love than the universe. God would never want to leave Adam and Eve's world of heart and true love.
If, after God created human beings, He fell into their true love and became a child lost in that love, what kind of world would we have?
Since God would dwell in their midst, the world formed by God and human beings becoming one would be a world filled with joy and beauty. (Blessed Family — 380)
If the true love of God had been perfected, the God of responsiveness would have no regrets at being absorbed by true love. God's nature is such that He would be pleased with anything that happened within the realm of true love.
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If human beings were to live in this world of true love, they would live a happy life free from regret. Moreover, this world would be without war and free of complaint and misfortune. (Blessed Family — 380)
Love Is Realized in a Completely Natural Setting
This is a story from my youth. One day, I caught a pair of birds and tried to make them kiss each other's beaks. To see them kiss, I put them in a cage, fed them, and watched them. I did it out of a child's desire to see them love each other and sing happily together.
This was an experiment, out of curiosity, to understand the principles of nature. I continued this experiment, which I now understand to have been quite naughty. It was only after a long while that I finally understood that love is realized only in a natural setting.
Sincere love is realized naturally, in an atmosphere that is natural to the highest degree. Through a long journey of experimentation, I came to the correct understanding of love. (Blessed Family — 353)
When someone loses love, will having a university education help them to regain love?
He will only accumulate knowledge, become individualistic, and come to worship materialism. Just as Korean bean soup tastes right only when it is served in a thick Korean bowl, character training can reach its purpose only when it is based on love.
The flower of world civilization should blossom based on artistic harmony. In this sense, roasted ribs should be served on a heavy platter, and Korean bean paste soup should be served in a thick Korean earthenware bowl to bring out their proper tastes.
Once you have become used to the rough, deep, and refreshing taste of Korean bean paste soup, you will never forget it, regardless of where you may go.
Likewise, once people have become used to the earthy, deep, relaxing taste of love, they will not change.
Just as one easily tires of instant foods that are usually heavily sweetened, if one could obtain love easily and anywhere like instant food, we would be unable to call it true love. (Blessed Family — 353)
There are people everywhere today who taste love as if they were eating instant food. This is the problem. Love does not deepen because you bathe in a fragrant bath. I would say that the love of a couple living in the countryside who wash themselves in cold water before going to bed is purer, longer-lasting, and ever-deepening.
A couple that has to brush their teeth before kissing is not experiencing natural love. The toothpaste smell will prevent them from tasting the unique smell of the other.
When I look at people who brush their teeth before kissing, I don't know whether they are trying to taste love or taste toothpaste. (Blessed Family — 353)
When you meet someone you like and love, you want to embrace and kiss that person. This is an instinct between the sexes. You can think you are meeting your partner to love your surroundings – the universe.
Finding a partner and establishing a relationship is a natural human behavior.
When man relates to woman and woman relates to man under the ideal of partnership, there will be no acts or incidents that violate the order of love.
The true order of love emerges only when man and woman meet based on the ideal of partnership. (Blessed Family — 353)
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